Am I Codependent? · A Private Reflection

Do you lose
yourself in relationships?

A few questions to sit with if caring for other people has begun to make it harder to hear yourself.

This is not a diagnosis, a score, or a test you can pass.

The word codependency can carry a lot of judgment. Here, it simply points to a pattern many people recognize: the tendency to organize their sense of safety, worth, or stability around another person's needs, feelings, or approval.

Nothing you select is saved or sent anywhere. You can use these questions as a quiet way to notice what feels familiar.

What feels familiar?

I can tell when someone is upset with me before they say anything, and I immediately start trying to make it better.I often know what other people need from me, but have trouble knowing what I need for myself.Saying no can bring up guilt, fear, or the sense that I am letting someone down.I spend a lot of time replaying conversations or wondering whether I have upset someone.When someone I love is struggling, their distress can take over my own emotional world.I feel responsible for keeping the peace, even when I am hurt or resentful.It is easier for me to care for someone else than to receive care or ask for help.I know I am allowed to have boundaries, but I still struggle to hold them when it matters.I often feel more settled once the people around me are settled.

If you want to explore this more fully, a free consultation is a place to ask questions and see whether therapy at Vea feels like a fit.

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across the
threshold.

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Do you loseyourself in relationships?

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Do you lose
yourself in relationships?

Step
across the
threshold.